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Lately I’ve been using a vibrating butt plug but it makes me cum too hard to fast and too much. Anybody else ever have this problem?

It sounds like your vibrating butt plug is providing prostate stimulation, which can absolutely make orgasms more intense! And while…

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My partner and I have been together a few months, and it’s been difficult to have sex because his penis falls out or bends no matter what position we try. I’m wondering what we can do?

All bodies are different, so it can take some trial and error to figure out the best way to bring…

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I am a 66-year-old man and I realize that I enjoy being submissive to women. I just want to give pleasure. Please help!

A man in his mid-60s asks Kinkly’s sex experts is it normal to fantasize about being a sexually submissive man?

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After watching us play together, my vanilla boyfriend thinks my dom/sub relationship with my girlfriend is abusive. How can I explain that it isn’t?

A Kinkly reader asks one of our experts about how to explain her BDSM relationship to her vanilla boyfriend.

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I’m planning a gangbang for my 30th birthday. How can I make sure everyone involved stays safe?

Erika Lust explains how to plan a birthday gangbang that’s physically and emotionally safe for all participants.

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I’m into kink but my husband is not. We’ve been together awhile and I know it could add spice, but how could I get him interested in trying? What can I do?

How to spice up your connection and gently introduce kink into your relationship.

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My wife wants to know how to invite another man join us for kinky sex

A reader husband inquires what is the best way to have a threesome with his wife and another man

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I caught my teenage son masturbating while sniffing my panties. Help!

A reader catches her teenage son masturbating while sniffing her panties and wants to know how to deal with it in a sensitive way. Our exper

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I’m drawn to submission but it’s also triggering. What can I do?

If submission is triggering for you, remember that there are resources to help you process trauma – and many ways to submit.

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How do I deal with hot husband guilt?

Many people believe hot husbands experience no discomfort around their partner’s desires. That’s not true. Quean Mo explains how to handle g

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I’m dating a man with a small penis. What can I do to make sure that I have an orgasm?

You do have some options. You can always opt to touch yourself during sex. Clitoral stimulation can be a big help. There are also a lot of p

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How can I orgasm faster?

Guys often work to slow down the time it takes to orgasm. But what about if you want to climax more quickly?

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What’s the best lube for masturbation if you have a penis?

What’s the best lube for masturbation if you have a penis?

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Can a vibrator help make sex more comfortable for me?

It sounds like that you’re most likely just really tense. After all, you’ve only known the guy for a couple of months. Vaginas have an amazi

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Can I still come after a hysterectomy?

Undergoing a hysterectomy may raise a lot of questions. We wanted to know, can you still come after a hysterectomy?

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How do I fulfill my cuckquean fantasy?

Have a cuckquean fantasy? Here’s how to go about fulfilling it!

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What type of vibrator would you recommend for a woman who has never tried a sex toy before?

I’ve never really been into vibrators but I would like to be, and I’d like to have my husband try some with me in the bedroom. What would yo

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How can I eliminate jealousy in my cuckquean relationship?

Can jealousy be eliminated in a cuckquean relationship? How?

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Help! Old traumas are creeping into my formerly awesome sex life!

This reader wants their sexy back but old trauma is cropping up to kill the mood. Certified sex educator Gigi Engle provides some ideas.

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How can I have my first threesome without it being awkward?

Kinkly asks the expert: How can I have my first threesome without it being awkward?

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What can a penis owner do to help maintain a partner’s vaginal health?

What can a penis owner do to help maintain a partner’s vaginal health? There are a few things!

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What are some tips for trying medical play safely?

Want to take ‘playing doctor’ to the next level? Kinkly asks the expert about medical play and safety.

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Can oral sex cause cancer?

Kinkly asks the expert about the link between oral sex and cancer.

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How can I find a third for a threesome?

Where do you look if you want a third for your threesome? Start by reading this!

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I want to use genital clamps. Can you give me some tips?

When experimenting with genital clamps, get familiar with your tool of choice before it touches any sensitive part of your body.

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Does masturbation increase testosterone levels?

Kinkly asks the expert what you should know about increased testosterone levels and masturbation.

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Is there such a thing as chronic masturbation?

Kinkly asks the expert about chronic masturbation.

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How do we stay connected in a time of anxiety?

Times of crisis, of any kind, can create intense reactions to everyday scenarios and heighten our emotional needs. The tricky part is that w

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Top surgery has caused me to lose feeling in my erogenous zones. What can I do?

Loss of sensation after any surgery is common and equally disheartening if not traumatic. We often hear from our doctors that it is a possib

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I’ve never been able to orgasm through sex with my partner, but I’m afraid to tell them. What should I do?

Orgasming with a partner is something that movies and social narratives tell us is oh so easy, when, in fact, it poses and a continual chall

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